Today, April 17, would
be my mother’s 80th birthday.
Phyllis Eileen Egli was born in Manson, Iowa in 1933 in the
home of her grandparents, Peter and Annie Peterson. Her grandmother, Annie Peterson, was
a midwife.
Phyllis was the second child and only girl born to Emery and
Edna Egli. She had three brothers: Tom, who was a year older, and Harris and
Kenneth who were younger. The Egli’s lived on various farms in the Manson area
while Phyllis was growing up. Phyllis attended one room school houses in the
county and the family was active in the Manson Mennonite Church. Both the
Egli’s and the Peterson’s were large families and there was always plenty of
family around. Phyllis grew up knowing many cousins.
Phyllis attended Hesston College in Hesston, Kansas, where
she met her future husband, Kenneth Schmidt. But Phyllis had dreams of becoming
a nurse. She had several aunts who were nurses and in fact one, Maude Egli
Swartzendruber, taught at LaJunta Mennonite School of Nursing. So after
Hesston, Phyllis moved to LaJunta, Colorado for nurses training. Ken, her
husband-to-be, was working at hospitals in Pueblo, Colorado, to fulfill his
service as a conscientious objector.
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Phyllis and her brother, Tom |
During that time Ken and Phyllis wrote letters. Nursing
students were not allowed to be married so they knew they had a wait ahead of
them. A wait they complained about in the hundreds of letters written during
those years. They wrote to each other nearly every day and I still have those
letters.
Finally in May of 1955 Phyllis graduated. And in August 1955
Ken and Phyllis were married in Manson, Iowa. They settled in Greensburg, Kansas,
farming for Ken’s parents. Phyllis also
did some nursing but soon she had a family to care for: a son in 1956, a daughter
in 1957, another daughter in 1959. And when Ken decided to return to school,
the family moved to North Newton, Kansas, and Phyllis worked the night shift to
help support the family.
After Ken graduated, the family moved with Ken’s job to
Texas for a short while. They lived in Colorado for over ten years and they
added a fourth child, another daughter in 1966. Then in 1978, they moved to
Indiana. Phyllis continued to work as a nurse. Sometimes she did hospital
nursing, but for many years she worked in doctors’ offices.
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Ken Schmidt family |
Phyllis was a working mother, but she was always there for
her kids, always involved in their lives and their activities. She was a very
giving and loving person and gave her time to volunteer work and also to help
her friends and neighbors and anyone she saw in need.
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Denim comforter she made
for her grandson |
Phyllis loved to sew and spent much of her free time
quilting and sewing for her children and later her grandchildren. She was also very involved in her
grandchildren’s lives, attending many activities and doing many things with and
for them.
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Phyllis with two of her granddaughters |
Everywhere Phyllis went she made friends. And she continued
to stay in touch with family far and near and with old friends scattered all
around the country. Her nursing classmates are still in close contact, writing
letters and spending time together. They share that Phyllis was often the life
of the party.
After they retired, Ken and Phyllis moved back to
Greensburg, Kansas and lived on a farm southwest of town. The devastating
tornado of 5 May 2007 came less than three miles east of them before destroying
the town of Greensburg.
Phyllis suffered from rheumatoid arthritis. Over the years
she chose aggressive treatments and met the crippling effects of the disease
head on. In 2008 Ken and Phyllis moved
into a retirement community in Hutchinson, Kansas, where they reconnected with
old friends and made new.
In December 2009 Mom was having
trouble keeping her balance. On January 4, 2010, she fell and was injured. She was
taken to the ICU in Wichita and on January 13, 2010, Mom passed away. We all miss her everyday.